Heal Your Relationships
Join us for a 5 Week Journey into the Heart of Your Relationship Patterns
Did you know you have the power to improve all of your closest relationships simply by doing your own inner-work?
Like Harriet Lerner says: “We cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance can no longer continue in the same predictable pattern.”
We learn about love when we’re small by taking cues from our parents and caretakers. When we had so-called “negative emotions,” how were we received? Were we shut out or punished for being angry or expressing our emotions?
This can lead to the belief that it’s not safe to use our voice, preventing us from truly honouring ourselves in present-day relationships.
Did someone leave? Was there physical or emotional abandonment? This can lead to the story that people always leave, love isn’t safe and we should never rely on anyone but ourselves.
Our stories from the past are carried forward, repeating patterns over and over until we wake up and see the light.
We find ourselves on a constant search for “The One” to make it all better. But the only way out is through – we must do the work of excavating our old wounds and beliefs about love to write a new chapter.
We begin this journey first by seeing our patterns for what they are. Wounds from the past. And next, we let go. We remember that we’re already whole and we recognize our resistance to change. We let go of the past hurts and we take a chance. We lean in instead of running away.
We ask for help and seek guidance.
We do the work to learn to trust love again…
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Join us for a 5-week journey into the heart of your relationship patterns
✓ Heal your relationships through self-awareness and shadow work
✓ Learn how to truly love yourself through radical self-acceptance
✓ Decode and heal your relationship patterns
✓ Remove blocks that sabotage your ability to find or keep love
✓ Cultivate your inner-fire and reclaim ownership over your body, sexuality and your life
✓ Learn how to communicate powerfully and set boundaries without alienating partners or friends
✓ Stop attracting men who take advantage of you, are dishonest or abusive
✓ Learn how to command respect and devotion from romantic partners
✓ Develop healthy self-esteem through inner-child work
✓ Recover, heal and flourish after a painful breakup or divorce
✓ Receive support and guidance during a breakup or divorce that’s overwhelmingly painful and scary
✓ Explore and heal your abandonment wound and learn how to feel safe on your own or inside a relationship
Session 1: Conscious Relationship
As children, we learn about love from our first family. Were big emotions acceptable? Was speaking your truth safe? Did someone leave? As adults, we carry our old programming including fears and stories from the past into our present day relationships. In order to attract and maintain quality, Conscious love, we first must be willing to put our old stories to bed and start a chapter in the now.
In this session, we explore the truth of Conscious Relationship and weave this all back to our most important relationship of all – our relationship to self!
✓ Learn the key principles of Conscious Relationship
✓ Let yourself be guided through our step-by-step process for identifying and understanding your relationship patterns
✓ Learn what it takes to break patterns and show up fully in relationship
✓ Identify your “core wounds” in relationship
✓ Get the tools you need to heal beliefs about unworthiness
Session 2: Shadow Work & Self-Acceptance
The traditional personal growth path often focuses on changing and developing ourselves. What’s missing from this space is the deeper shadow work where we illuminate the very aspects of our personality and behaviors that we keep hidden. These aspects are often what fuels our unconscious beliefs about not being good enough, being too much, different or separate from others. Shadow work allows us to witness all parts of ourselves and integrate them so we can achieve true self-acceptance.
In this session, you’ll learn the foundational teachings of Shadow Work and experience the freedom of self-acceptance. We’ll carefully guide you through processes designed to illuminate your unconscious beliefs and transform the way you feel about yourself.
✓ Discover your own shadow traits by using a carefully designed process
✓ Experience shadow work in a safe-container guided by qualified facilitators
✓ Learn what’s holding you back in relationship or getting in the way of consciously relating to others
✓ Learn how to communicate your needs and wants from a graceful and empowered place
Session 3: Healing the Abandonment Wound
An abandonment wound is invisible to the eye but it leaves telltale signs in how we relate to the external world, how we feel internally and how we behave in our relationships. Two common patterns that we see with an abandonment wound are an intense attraction to people who are unavailable or losing attraction for someone who is ready to commit. Also, the intensity of this wound can embed a ‘flight mode’ where we find ourselves running from perceived danger in relationships that is likely not there. We commonly test the love given to us – and like a straw that inevitably breaks – use that as evidence, we’re living in an unsafe world. Out of desperation to feel safe and loved we accept the bad behavior of others, ignore our own needs and prevent ourselves from having a strong, powerful voice.
How an abandonment wound plays out in real life:
• Oversensitivity to criticism or feedback
• Overreacting to conflict
• Extremist tendencies (ghosting at the first sign of conflict, big emotional outbursts)
• Anxiety and fear of the other person leaving
• Ending relationships early before the other person has a chance to leave
• Jealousy or suspicion that your partner will hurt, cheat, or leave even when there’s no sign of malicious behavior
• Self-doubt, insecurity, and lack of self-worth
• Staying in an abusive relationship (or as I call it ‘dumpster diving for love’ – aka taking what you can get)
• In more extreme cases of being deeply triggered during events such as break-ups, a divorce, or a loss: one might feel a total loss of control over their emotions, hyper-reactivity, anxiety attacks, fear, insomnia, weight loss or gain, and obsessive thoughts or behaviors
In this session, we’ll explore the root of abandonment wounds as they pertain to your personal experiences in relationship.
✓ We’ll guide you through the process of learning to identify what areas of your past may be asking for healing
✓ Reconnect to your inner-child and learn how to self-soothe during times of heightened emotion
✓ Learn how to communicate when you’re feeling scared, triggered or abandoned
Session 4: Conscious Boundary Setting
Simply learning how to set boundaries isn’t enough. First, we have to understand what’s holding us back from setting boundaries in a conscious way. There are two types of boundary problems. The first is setting boundaries in a style that pushes everyone around us away and creates separation in our relationships. The second is failing to set boundaries at all out of fear we’ll be disliked or rejected. Both lead to resentment and the ultimate break-down of our relationships.
In this session we’ll work together to illuminate the unconscious blocks you may have when it comes to setting boundaries. You’ll be guided through processes to support you in expressing yourself from a place of confidence and power.
✓ Learn the different types of boundaries and when to use them
✓ Uncover your boundary beliefs and what’s preventing you from getting the respect you deserve
✓ Practice setting boundaries so you feel confident setting them in challenging situations
✓ Develop of a sense of safety and security knowing you’re honoring yourself in relationships, work, family and within yourself
Session 5: Integration & Embodiment
The Integration session is dedicated to helping you integrate what you’ve learned and help you move into the world with this newfound wisdom as a conscious woman! EMBODIMENT is the keyword for this session.
You’ll receive a guided process on coming home to yourself in moments of intensity, and feeling safe in your body. We’ll be popping into the Facebook group in week 5 to do an extra-long LIVE session to help answer your questions and ensure you’ve got the tools you need to put the teachings into action.
How The Program Works
We’ve designed this program to be accessible to you no matter where you are in the world, what time-zone you’re in, or what your work schedule looks like. This is a 100% digital program, with community, support & genuine connection built in.
Each week, you’ll receive access to a new video lesson and workbook in your private members only support group. In these videos, we’ll be teaching and guiding you through the exercises.
You’ll be added to a private Facebook group, where we’ll be spending time answering questions and doing FB Live Q&A Coaching Calls.
You’ll have an opportunity to share what you discovered in the lesson and receive personal feedback and coaching from Shay and Heather.
✓ 5 x Video Lessons + workbooks and exercises
✓ A private Facebook group made only for members of the program to interact, share, receive feedback and go through the exercises together
✓ Support and guidance in the private groups from Heather, Shay and their team.
Registration Cost: $500 +GST
You will receive access to the program upon registration. This is our Beta program, so anyone who registers now will receive FREE extended access beyond the 5-weeks. That means you’ll get access to the support group until the end of 2018 for no extra-cost. You will also get access to new bonus materials, and updated exercises as they are developed until the end of the year. When you register now you get:
Immediate Access to the 5-Week Program
Immediate Access to the Private Facebook Support Group with Heather and Shay
Extended Access to the Support Group until December 31, 2018
I have been involved with Heather and Sheleana’s Women’s Group for over a year now and the supportive community of women they have developed and nurtured has far surpassed all of my expectations. Their personalities and differing strengths compliment each other so well; I have recommended their work both individually and together to several people in my life and will continue to do so. anyone who is looking for support in exploring their own stories and healing their lives would benefit from the expertise of these women.
– Julie Burk
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It is challenging to put into words just how impactful Heather and Sheleana have been in my life. It feels easy to trust them because they are exemplary models of facilitators who are living what they teach. Through their Work they demonstrate firsthand the courage it takes to speak the truth and the compassion, centred-ness and grounded-ness it requires to truly hold space. They have shown me what is possible as a woman, teacher, healer, leader and community member. They are both such embodied, empowered and empathetic individuals, and together they are an even more powerful force… With their unique gifts and complementary skillsets, when they lead together, healing and growth are bound to take place!
– Cara Reynolds
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I only started working with Sheleana and Heather around 3 months ago, and I can already say that having these women as mentors and friends is such a blessing. My life is forever changed and I am eternally grateful for their presence and guidance. Each week at women’s group I am pushed to step more deeply into my authentic Self, which is the most rewarding thing in this world.
– Sayde Susan
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Heather and Sheleana are two of the most powerful, soulful and real people I have ever met. I have worked with them for over a year now being in the weekly women’s group and my life has been impacted dramatically. I have done personal development and spiritual work for over 30 years and what Sheleana and Heather offer is the real deal. It has helped me accept myself in a way that I never thought possible by making it ok to feel everything, to feel safe to talk about it and by creating a community of support who loves and supports me for me. I am so grateful for their support, mentorship, and friendship. This work is deep, it’s real, and it’s powerful. Thank you.
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Heather and Sheleana have completely changed my life — actually, they have helped me change my own life, which is a super important distinction! Learning from their lineage and in a group setting with others has been of so much benefit for me personally, it has spilled over into my professional life and grown into this beautiful community of like-minded people. Every aspect of my life is growing and improving with their guidance and my hard work. It’s a bit hard to believe really. I can’t thank you, ladies, enough. I am so grateful to be a part of this. ❤
– Stephanie Hunter
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Being a part of the Rising Woman Sisterhood has been the greatest thing I have ever done. Heather and Sheleana have so much wisdom and their guidance has been life changing. They are both caring, supportive and powerfully intuitive. I have learned so much from them and feel grateful for the tools they have shared to change my life.
– Amanda Koble
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Heather & Sheleana are their own solar system and I am forever changed by my work with them over the past year. Not only are they inspiring just in their personal being, but they have a unique way of sparking internal shifts within me that I didn’t realize were even possible. Their combined well of deep knowledge, endless love and bravery to go deep has facilitated change in me that everyone in my outside life can notice. I walk taller, I speak my truth quicker, and I feel more whole on a daily basis because of my transformational work with these two women.
Frequently Asked Questions
You’ll receive a registration email to the address you used to pay within 24 hours. In the email, you’ll receive a link to join us in the private group, and all of the details you need to get ready for the first session!
The beauty of group coaching is in the power of community! At first, it might sound like a scary idea to work on some of your deepest wounds, fears, and anxieties with a group of people you’ve never met… and the truth is, it IS a little bit scary and that’s the point!
All growth starts when we’re willing to step out of our comfort zone and let ourselves be witnessed. Group coaching is potent because you put yourself in a safe space with a small group of other women who are just like you. They have similar relationship challenges, fears, and experiences and they want the same thing: emotional freedom, self-confidence, and healthy, happy relationships! Heal Your Relationships is designed for you to see yourself in others, share the journey, and realize you’re not alone.
Each session, you’ll receive a video and worksheets that you do in the privacy of your own home. Inside the private, members-only Facebook support group you’ll have the opportunity throughout your 5 weeks with us to hop on FB live sessions, ask questions, and share your journey with other women inside the group.
The boundaries of the group are designed to ensure you’re safe at all times and that each woman’s individual process is honored.
You’ll always have access to the video lessons and worksheets, so you never have to worry about missing a session. We’ll be doing multiple FB Live Q&A sessions throughout the 5 weeks and you’re welcome to share your process with us there too!
One the program has begun and you’ve been added to the private support group we do not offer refunds on this program. It’s common to have what we call a “vulnerability hangover” after doing deeper work, and sometimes our coping mechanism is to hide or run away. We encourage you to lean in when this happens and reach out! We’ll be covering how to do this in the first session. We are here to support you when it feels challenging.
Because of the interactive nature of this program, you’ll need to have a working Facebook account. Even if you’re not a regular Facebook user, you can simply use your account to join us in the private group and engage with us there.
The only other thing you’ll need to participate with us is a deep willingness and desire for growth!